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Feeling Overwhelmed by Your Writing? Here’s How to Deal with It.

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As writers and creatives, we occasionally experience those moments of overwhelm–when it seems many tasks and projects hit all at once fighting for our attention. Or maybe it’s not many things but one gigantic project that stops us in our tracks.

The good news is that this feeling is quite common, and perhaps even a natural part of the writing process. Though when you’re going through it, it feels like you’re the only person in the world suffering.

For me, the overwhelm struck after I had completed a rough draft of two separate novels. I stared at the pile of pages wondering “Where do I begin to sort through this mess?” The thought of revising my work filled me with dread. The overwhelm I felt stopped me in my tracks, and I struggled to get started on the revision phase. It’s only recently that I jumped back into the project once I realized that the reason for the overwhelm was that I didn’t know how to proceed with my revision. I didn’t have a plan.

I’ve noticed that when overwhelm occurs to me, it’s usually under one of the following circumstances:

* High expectations of myself (also called perfectionism)
* A supersized project that I’ve poured my heart and soul into
* Writing about an unfamiliar topic
* A super tight deadline
* Too many projects of multiple sizes hitting at one time
* Too many story ideas begging for my attention
* Any project where I feel unsure about what I’m doing

I’ll discuss each of these circumstances below, but know that the feeling of overwhelm happens to all of us at one time or another. While the emotional toil can be difficult, I’ve found that each situation requires rethinking how to perform the writing tasks at hand and setting new priorities.

1. High expectations/perfectionism. Sure, it’s important to think big, to envision success for your writing project. But sometimes what you produce on the screen/on paper doesn’t match up with what you originally envisioned inside your head. That can be a tough pill to swallow. Not only does it not match, it’s far from perfect, which can further dampen your enthusiasm for the project and steal your momentum. The image of perfectionism can fill you with overwhelm that’s hard to dig out of. It’s helpful to remember that nothing is truly perfect when you start writing. Think of your project as a stone that is raw and misshapen before it’s cut and polished into a bright, shining diamond.

2. One supersized project. Like my recent work-in-progress, a supersized project can be daunting to complete, like climbing a mountain. It might help to break the project into smaller chunks so they’re easier to manage. For example, if writing a book, try writing and editing several scenes at a time to make sure they flow well and make sense. Tackling a few scenes at a time also gives you a sense of accomplishment. When you see the progress you make, that feeling of overwhelm will likely subside.

3. An unfamiliar topic. As writers, we may have to write about things we know nothing about. Sometimes that lack of knowledge can be overwhelming and prevent us from making any real progress on our current project. Yet, our writing success requires that we develop that knowledge. Whether you’ve been assigned a topic by an editor or you’re doing background research for a novel or memoir, embrace that opportunity to learn and grow. Take the time to read articles or talk to an expert about the work they do. Writing is all about learning. 

4. A super tight deadline. Deadlines and fast turnarounds can feel overwhelming when it’s thrust on you out of the blue. It’s helpful to set aside non-essential tasks and focus on the most important tasks first. It can feel freeing to get past the hard work first before doing simpler tasks.  If you’re feeling truly stuck, consider requesting more time from the client or boss so you get some breathing room.

5. Too many projects to juggle. Sometimes the overwhelm occurs when you’re dealing with multiple projects of various sizes and deadlines. That’s when your organizational skills can really shine. Similar to the tight deadline, it’s important to set priorities. Work on the projects that are the most pressing or have the more immediate deadline. If anything should fall through the cracks, it probably wasn’t that important to begin with.

6. Too many stories begging for your attention. You might be working on one project while another story idea tantalizes you from beyond. While it’s tempting to switch gears, chasing after every new, shiny idea can be counterproductive and slow your momentum. What I’ve done in these situations is to draft notes about the new, shiny idea, which should only take a day or two. It might help to keep a spreadsheet of all your story ideas with a brief summary of the plot and  descriptions of some of the characters. That way you won’t forget your bright, shiny idea, and you can get back to your current project.

7. Not sure what steps to take next. The feeling of overwhelm may result because you don’t know what your next steps should be. When I struggled with the revision process of my novels, it made me feel stuck and overwhelmed. I took a time out to research various approaches to revision until I settled on an option that I felt would work best. Now that I’ve settled on one,  courtesy of Jessica Brody and Writing Mastery, I’m finally making progress. So if you’re feeling stuck because you’re unsure what the next step should be, take the time to research several expert opinions and experiment with them to see which one works.

There will always be moments when writing feels overwhelming. That’s a normal part of the writing process. When that happens, take a step back and observe your work with a critical eye. Once you understand what’s making you feel overwhelmed, you can take the steps to unblock yourself and move your project to a successful conclusion.

What a Critique Partner Can Do for Your Writing

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Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about finding a critique partner. 

Before you cringe at the word critique, let me explain. Critique isn’t necessarily a bad thing if it’s done well. As harsh as the word sounds to more sensitive ears, critiques perform some good in the world, especially for creatives who want to improve their craft.

Whether it’s provided by a professional editor or a close writer friend, a critique can provide insights about your writing–about what you’re doing well and what needs improvement. According to Writer’s Digest, “a good critique partner offers constructive criticism that elevates your story. They do this while lifting you up and never tearing you down.”

Think of a critique partner as a step up from a writing buddy. There are differences between the two. For one, writing buddies may not write in the same genre as you and perhaps may not have the same level of experience. A critique partner is a closer and more balanced relationship. More likely, they’re writing in the same genre and may already be published, so they bring that added level of expertise when reviewing your work. I also believe critique partners are more invested in your success than a writing buddy might be. 

Most important, critique partners bring respect to the relationship. They’re not trying to tear you down or make you feel bad about yourself. They’re there to help you become a better writer. Likewise, as a critique partner for someone else, it’s important to be respectful of them.

That said, there are some ground rules for joining with a critique partner–for both you and your partner. Here are a few suggestions from WritingMastery.com.

  1. Set expectations for the partnership. What type of feedback do you each need? Developmental edits or notes on story structure? Grammar and punctuation? It’s often helpful to provide a few questions that the critique partner can answer. For example, did any parts of the story lag? Their responses can point to problem areas that need to be fixed.
  2. Provide context for the submitted material. Is it only the first chapter you want them to review? Or maybe it’s 50 pages from the middle section. (Because we all know how troublesome that middle section can be.) If possible, set a deadline for their review so the manuscript pages don’t sit on the backburner for too long.
  3. Be positive in your critique. Avoid being too heavy handed with your feedback. Try sandwiching any negative feedback between positive comments. Start with a compliment, followed by critique, then conclude with another compliment. It can often soften the blow. Be specific with your feedback too. For example, if a section or story was boring, don’t just say it was boring. Explain why you think the story lagged so you lost interest. If the story isn’t your cup of tea, don’t be afraid to say so.
  4. Accept feedback gracefully. If you’re the one receiving the feedback, keep an open mind and don’t overreact if you hear negative comments. It might help to come back to the critique a few days later after you’ve had a chance to calm down. The comments may  make more sense by then. That approach has often worked for me. You also have the option, as the original creator, to nix any of your partner’s suggestions. They may not totally understand the basis for your story.
  5. Provide resources to your critique partner. If the other writer is struggling with dialogue, they might appreciate receiving resources that can help them improve that aspect of their craft. But always ask if they want those resources; don’t assume they will accept them with grace.
  6. Always respect your partner, and expect the same in return. Any relationship is based on mutual respect. If there are any differences, talk them out to clear the air. That’s why it’s important to set expectations up front so there are no misunderstandings later on. Of course, if the partnership no longer works for either of you or if the mutual respect is lacking, it may be time to move on.

    When you’re feeling stuck on a story and need an objective opinion, a critique partner can help you move past the problem areas so you become the best writer you can be.