Protagonists Behaving Badly

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I’ve noticed an interesting trend in the books I’ve been reading lately. More and more, I’m reading stories with protagonists who aren’t the most likeable people on earth.

I’m not sure if it’s the types of books I’m reading, or that my self-study of writing has made me more aware of characters behaving badly. Perhaps I’m letting my moral compass dictate which characters I should and should not like. In any case, over the past year and a half, I’ve come across numerous protagonists with questionable habits and decision-making capabilities. Some of them I wouldn’t want to hang out with, let alone share a glass of wine.

I don’t necessarily like the term “unlikeable” in this sense. It implies that the character has no redeeming qualities, which is often not true. In you’re familiar with the Save the Cat storytelling method, writers are encouraged to give even the most awful villains some positive trait to balance out their personality. For example, after your character robs a bank and stabs a bank teller, he might come home and play with his two German Shepherds, a scene that shows his softer side.

Writing an unlikeable or unreliable protagonist isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Their flawed personalities might create chaos for the people around them and for themselves. Without their flaws, you wouldn’t have a story arc, an interesting, well-founded protagonist or conflict and tension that can keep readers reading.

Unlikeable protagonists can still be people we root for in the end. They can still earn our respect, even our compassion. It’s not always easy, but it can be done.

By my count, there are at least seven types of unlikeable protagonists (known in publishing as the anti-hero, which conjures up the song by Taylor Swift.) These characters simply get in their own way. I’ve listed them below along with a corresponding example.

1. Protagonists who don’t act their own age. These Immature characters act more like bratty teenagers than the mature adult they should be. Their behavior and decision making sets them up for trouble.

Example: The Girl I Was by Geneva Rose

2. A clingy protagonist or one involved in a co-dependent relationship. These individuals are so closely intertwined with another person that they lose sight of who they are and who the other person is. They’re so afraid of the future that they cling to the other person. Yet, they don’t recognize how the relationship has stifled their own existence.

Example: One Italian Summer by Rebecca Serle.

3. Protagonists with an addiction. Characters with an addiction to drugs and/or alcohol can find themselves in all sorts of trouble because their addition often clouds their perceptions and judgment. At their harshest moments, it can be difficult to feel anything for them. But of course, that is the basis of their conflict. Can they begin to resolve their conflicts despite the impact of their addictions?

Example: The Woman in Cabin 10 by Ruth Ware.

4. Protagonists who are unwilling to change their ways despite the truths they have faced. In a typical character arc, the character should experience some growth from point A to point F. But sometimes, the character doesn’t change much, no matter what they have learned or experienced in the story. Rather than embrace the changes that the plot begs them to accept, there is some aspect that scares them so much that they run and return to their old way of life.  

Example: Vanishing Acts by Jodi Picoult

5. A protagonist with an obsessive personality. After tragedy strikes or a personal crisis, the protagonist focuses all their time and attention on fighting a cause or in caring for another person. But when that character becomes so obsessed with that they lose sight of their own needs or the needs of other people in their lives, it can create unbreakable bonds. Only when a crisis occurs with other characters do they realize that their life is out of balance.

Example: Handle with Care by Jodi Picoult

6. A protagonist who treats others with disdain and arrogance. It’s hard to like someone who treats others like they’re dirt. At first glance, they may not have any redeeming qualities. Yet, if you look more closely, they usually do, and it’s usually buried under a veneer of anger or sadness or loneliness. Take, for example, Carrie Soto might be standoffish and arrogant around her competitors, but you have to admire her work ethic, her single-minded determination to win every tournament, and most important, her devotion to her father.

Example: Carrie Soto is Back by Taylor Jenkins-Reid

7. A character who takes advantage of the good, kind nature of a friend or loved one. These individuals have learned to live off of others, whether it’s because they grew up in poverty and never had enough growing up, or they believe they’re entitled to other people’s possessions. In other cases, they are starved for love and affection and believe they can get it by needing the help of others. Their neediness and manipulation can cause a lot of strife between characters. Sometimes the friendship survives.

Example: Best Friends Forever by Jennifer Weiner

By observing these characters’ struggles, we learn to empathize with these flawed characters. After all, we all have our own demons to slay. Why shouldn’t your own protagonists have them too? Let them reflect the people you meet in the real world, people who have their own private struggles, whether it’s dealing with grief, an addiction, job loss, a divorce, or a health crisis. That’s what makes these unlikeable characters a little more likeable—their relatability.

Writing experts offer a few suggestions for making these characters work well in your stories, despite their flaws.

1. Make them relatable. Give them problems to overcome, with their flaws acting as barriers to their resolution.

2. Give them redeemable qualities. Allow their humanity to show through. Give them a quality people will respect. For example, the playground bully who goes home every day and plays with his dog.

3. Show how they became flawed. Whether it’s through backstory or it’s a part of the novel’s set up, show how your protagonist became the person they are.

4. Sometimes, it’ not about the character’s personality but about their decision making process. It may be that you don’t agree with the decisions they make, whether they’re right or wrong.

Writing and reading about an unlikeable character can be both fun and enlightening. Just don’t take them too seriously; they are only fictionalized people, after all. Remember that all characters are flawed in one sense or another. As readers, we can learn to empathize with their struggles, no matter how likeable they may be.

Favorite Books of 2023

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Hello readers! Hope the New Year is getting off to a strong start. I’m back from my holiday break feeling refreshed and ready to work toward my writing goals. Hope you are too!

Before I get too deeply into this week’s post, I want to tell you about one small change to my website. As you may know, I post a writing prompt on my site. I tried to post the prompt every week, but frankly, it got more difficult to come up with a situational writing prompt. This year, I decided to post the  writing prompt twice a month, on the 15th and 30th of the month.

Secondly, in the past, the prompts had focused on a situation, such as a surprise guest or an event that takes place during a storm. But this year, the prompt will feature a word or phrase that might conjure up a memory or inspire you to write a scene related to that word.

For example, this week’s word is “bittersweet.” What images come to mind for that word? Perhaps it’s a bittersweet moment in your life? Or perhaps you tasted something that was bittersweet. Whatever that word might mean for you will lead you to your essay or short story. Hope those words/phrases will inspire you to write your best stories.

Now back to this week’s post.

Before we get too far into the New Year, I like to reflect on the books I’ve read over the past year. As usual, I created my own reading challenge to read a variety of genres. I find that reading different genres and writing styles keeps me honest as both a reader and a writer.

That said, 2023 was not the best year for my reading. Sure, I read a variety of stories, from mystery and romance to memoir and nonfiction, but few of impressed me.

What I look for in a novel is good storytelling, an interesting premise, strong, compelling characters, surprising plot twists and a satisfying ending. Below are my favorite books that excelled in those areas.

Before We Were Yours – Lisa Wingate
Told in a dual timeline in the past and present, Before We Were Yours is one of Wingate’s best. I was immediately drawn into the story, and the events of the past and the break-up of the five children was heartbreaking. This book was hard to put down, and the story and its characters stayed with me long after it ended.

The Little French Bistro – Nina George
It’s rare to read a book featuring a main character over the age of 60. This year I read two of them. (See Arthur Pepper below.) Wanting to escape her loveless marriage and boring life in London, Marianne wants to end her life. Rescued by a good Samaritan, she decides to venture out of London, joining up with a tourist group and ending up in a small French town where she meets a cast of characters who open her up to new possibilities for the future and who convince her that her life is only just beginning.

The Guest List – Lucy Foley
This is the first novel I’ve read by Foley, and it won’t be the last. As guests gather on a remote Irish island for a wedding, several of them are nervous about events from the past. The dual timeline didn’t slow down the pace of the story, but it could be confusing at times. Readers see events unfold from the points of view of five different characters, each with a reason to kill the victim. The speedy pacing made this a difficult book to put down.

The Last Thing He Told Me – Laura Dave
Of all the books I read the past year, this one was the most suspenseful. In an interview with Dave I heard last year, she admitted that it took her 12 years to write this book. She kept going back to it ever so often, sure that there was a nugget of a story. It was worth waiting for. A strong female lead character, snappy dialogue and brisk pacing made this a fast, easy read. I’m looking forward to reading more of Dave’s books.

The Curious Charms of Arthur Pepper – Phaedra Patrick
I adored Patrick’s last release, The Messy Lives of Book People, so I figured this novel would be just as good. Arthur Pepper is a 60-something widower who feels lost without his wife. While searching through his wife’s belongings, he comes across a piece of jewelry that belonged to her, which he knows he never gave her. He begins to wonder who is wife really is and what other secrets she may be hiding. In a series of events and journeys, Arthur begins to learn more about his wife, and about himself.

In Five Years – Rebecca Serle
Imagine waking up five years in the future in an apartment that is not yours and next to a man who is not your husband? That is the premise for this engaging novel by Serle, who takes readers on a time travel journey that makes you realize that things aren’t always as they seem. At the start, the story gives the impression of being a lightweight rom-com, only to turn somber at the midpoint. After a few interesting plot twists, the story hints at a happy ending. It’s a rare story that I still think about a whole year after I’ve finished reading it.

Honorable Mentions:
While not my personal favorites in 2023, the following books were worth reading for one reason or another.

Look Again by Lisa Scottoline – suspenseful, strong female lead
While Beauty Slept by Elizabeth Blackwell – a reimagined story of Sleeping Beauty
The Woman in Cabin 10 by Ruth Ware – psychological thriller set on a private luxury cruise ship
Safe Haven by Nicholas Sparks – fun, suspenseful read, perfect for summer
Lessons in Chemistry by Bonnie Garmus – Didn’t love the book as much as everyone else seemed to, but I felt I had to read to see what the excitement was about.

What about you? What were the best books you read in 2023?