Do’s and Don’ts of Maintaining a Writing Practice

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Starting a writing practice can be difficult to start and maintain. There’s always the potential for distractions, like a child or pet wanting you to play with them. But with every milestone achieved, whether it’s finishing 1000 words or completing the first short story or essay, there is a sense of accomplishment. 

No matter what type of writer you are–or want to be–having a consistent writing practice is key to making progress. Inspired by this article on Writer’s Digest website recently about the do’s and don’ts of writing, I’ve created my own list based on my own experience on this writing journey. Because while writing is a solo activity, we can all learn from each other.

Do’s:

  • Do maintain a consistent practice. Whether that’s 500 words per day for six days or only one morning on the weekend for three hours, the schedule is up to you. The important thing is to be consistent about it. It may not seem like you’re not making much progress with your manuscript, but by the end of several months, you’ll have a completed story.
  • Do read and learn as much as you can about the publishing industry, particularly about the different paths to publication. There are numerous resources, magazines, industry blogs, and workshops that can help you understand what’s at stake. The more you know about the various paths to publication–whether traditional, hybrid or self-publishing–the better prepared you will be to decide which path is right for you.
  • Do read often and widely. Most writers I know are voracious readers. Reading different genres and authors exposes you to various writing styles. It’s just as important to read in your chosen genre so you know what readers are buying in the current marketplace. Reading widely can help you to develop your own narrative writing voice.
  • Do learn about story structure (if you’re writing fiction). When I started writing, I didn’t know anything about story structure, character arcs and creating tension. I know a lot more than I used to, but I’m still learning. I probably will always be learning because I’m a bit of a perfectionist and I want to write the best story I can. So do your homework. Once you understand the rules of story structure, you can break them later.
  • Do develop a professional support system. Surround yourself with people who can provide encouragement and support when you need it, like when you get your first rejection notice or when you feel stuck on your work-in-progress. Other writers can provide insights about your process, and friends who are avid readers can tell you what’s working and what isn’t. You don’t have to go through the writing process alone. Reach out to others when you need a lift.
  • Do keep writing. This is probably the most important to-do of all. There are times when you will feel like quitting, times when the motivation just isn’t there. That’s when it might be tempting to walk away from the desk or give up altogether. If you need to take a day off to clear your head of storylines and characters, that’s okay. But walking away from your writing will feel like you’ve given up on yourself. So even when you’re having a rough day at your desk, do keep writing.

Don’ts:

  • Don’t worry about the first draft (or even the second). It will always be garbage, a jumbled mess of ideas. This is a normal part of the story development process. Think of the first draft as the brainstorming phase in which you throw out all your ideas, no matter if they make sense or not. See which ones stick. The real writing begins with the revision phase.
  • Don’t let the revision process overwhelm you. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve stopped my own progress because the revision process overwhelmed me. Was I doing it right? Did I really need that scene? (If you have to ask that question, you probably don’t.) It’s okay to take baby steps with revision, and it’s also okay to ask for insights from a critique partner. Take one chapter at a time and review it to see if it aligns with your overall story. Does the scene push the story forward? Does it align with the story arc? Only you can answer those questions. Revision isn’t a race, more like a rough sludge through mud. But with a slow, consistent pace, you will get to the finish line.
  • Don’t wait for inspiration to strike. If you wait for the lightning bolt of an idea to strike you before writing a word, you may be waiting an awfully long time. Even if you don’t know what to write about, sit down and write anyway. So what if it’s all garbage to start with.  Inspiration will come. It usually does. You sort of have to knock on the door of inspiration first. The door will open and let you in.
  • Don’t deny your creative needs. We go through life taking care of our various needs, such as the physical need for nutrition and proper sleep and the emotional need for connection with others or giving back to the community. Most of us don’t think about the other basic need–the need to express ourselves creatively. Creative needs are as critical to our well-being as proper nutrition and self-care. They’re also as natural as breathing and sleeping. So don’t neglect your creative needs, and find ways to express yourself through your writing or other creative outlet.
  • Don’t be afraid to share your work with others. While you may prefer to keep your writing to yourself or wait until the story is absolutely perfect (guilty as charged), keeping your writing a secret serves no useful purpose. Some things are better when it’s shared. 

You probably have your own list of do’s and don’ts about writing. What’s at the top of your list? Is there anything here you agree or disagree with?

Writing Stories Featuring Mature Characters

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Pick up a book anywhere these days, and you’ll likely find a story about a young protagonist, or at least someone far younger than yourself. In an effort to reach the millennial generation, most publishers and filmmakers tend to feature younger characters.

Where does that leave older readers and viewers?

A recent study by Gransnet, an online community for grandparents, finds that ageism really does exist in fiction. In its survey of 1,000 women over the age of 40, roughly 47% said there aren’t enough books on the market about middle-aged or older women.

Further, over half (51%) felt older women in fiction were portrayed in clichéd roles, such as being technology-phobic (not true) or not having interests outside of the home.  

Most important, two-thirds of surveyed women (67%) said they want to read about characters they can identify with, specifically physically active women (56%) and working in satisfying careers (41%).

The publishing industry is beginning to take notice. Some publishers are more open to reviewing manuscripts featuring older adults. While the path isn’t wide open, it’s certainly an improvement from days past when publishers automatically dismissed a story because of an aged protagonist.

For examples of these types of stories, here’s a list of books I’ve read that feature older protagonists (late 40s and older).

* The Little French Bistro by Nina George
* The Little Paris Bookshop by Nina George
* The Messy Lives of Book People by Phaedra Patrick
* The Children Act by Ian McEwan
* A Man Called Ove by Frederick Bachman
* Still Alice by Lisa Genova
* Olive Kittridge by Elizabeth Strout
* The Snow Child by Eowyn Ivey
* Open House by Elizabeth Berg
 
Why do these stories work? Because they feature clearly drawn characters with extensive life experiences and some emotional baggage, which makes them relatable. Their backstories are based on modern realities, such as career shifts, love gained and lost, and personal challenges. They also bring emotional maturity. Even though they’re older, they still face difficulties, such as fear of aging, fear of being alone and struggling to trust again.

The truth is, people don’t stop living – or loving – once they turn 45.

“Older characters show us what it’s like to be human,” said Jeannie Moon, Your Author Mom, in a recent webinar for the Contemporary Romance Writers (CRW). While her session focused on romance novels, I think her suggestions can be applied to any genre or literary fiction.

Stories about characters over 45, Moon added, “focus not only on romantic relationships but also on personal journeys of growth and reinvention. Themes of second chances, overcoming life’s hardships, and rediscovering love are common, adding to the emotional resonance of these stories.”

To best capture these literary journeys, writers can adapt the traditional fiction tropes so they reflect the challenges and opportunities of middle-aged characters. For example:

* Friends to lovers – You might have the lead characters meet through a mutual friend or at a social occasion, like a wedding. Maybe they go to the same health club or share the same hobby, like bird watching, or meet at a cooking class.

* Forbidden love – Something about their budding relationship might be forbidden. The most common obstacle is age difference or perhaps they live in separate cities so the distance might prevent them from being close.

* Second chance – This trope is common for older characters. Imagine them meeting at a class reunion (I have friends who met that way and later married!) or meet at the funeral of a mutual acquaintance after not seeing each other for years.

* Rebuilding after loss – Older characters suffer through losses, but also find the strength to move forward with their lives. Losing a spouse, a job, or a home are common experiences for older adults.

* Forced proximity – Seasoned characters might have their own businesses. In this trope, try pitting two business owners against one another on opposite sides of an issue concerning their town.

You get the idea.

There’s plenty of room on library and bookstore shelves for stories about mature adults. The key is to create characters that are authentic and believable. Show them as vulnerable people struggling to make sense of their world as they grow older.

As readers age out of younger protagonist-led stories, they will appreciate being able to find novels with older characters.